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The 7 Deadly Relationship Sins
A series of 8 short videos for a total running time of 46 minutes.
Assignment D4: Defensiveness
4:54 minutes
"Eat the meat, but leave the bone."
-- Common Proverb
QUIZ D4
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1. The relationship traits that are known to destroy marriages include:
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Criticism
Contempt
Defensiveness
Stonewalling (Withdrawal)
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2. When is defensiveness appropriate?
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Correct obvious misconceptions or lies
Defend against false accusations
Protect yourself from verbal attacks
Ward off physical abuse
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3. Defensiveness is problematic when it becomes a PATTERN of attitude and behavior.
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4. The healthy replacement behavior for defensiveness is:
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Withdrawal
Contempt
Openness
5. The "attack" that you perceive as a threat to your happiness may be a "blessing in disguise."
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6. Which of the following are key points for learning openness?
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Initially accept what the person is saying to you
Keep and apply that part which is valuable to you
Leave (reject) that part which is worthless to you
"Eat the meat, but not the bone." Mark all that apply.
7. Distorted thoughts or unrealistic expectations make it almost impossible for us to receive criticism in a gracious way, and we become defensive, instead.
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8. A clever twist that can prevent defensiveness and avoid the power struggle in any conflict is:
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List the "facts" and take a vote
Get a referee to officiate the argument
Argue the other person's case
9. What happens when you look at a situation from the other person's perspective?
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Defensiveness disappears
Communication opens up
Desires are understood
Love flows
Mark all that apply.
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