Coach D7

1. Which of the following traits, which are present in almost all failed relationships, are strong predictors of divorce, are often learned in the home of origin, and tend to neutralize all the good in a relationship? *

Escalation (Anger) Invalidation Negative Interpretation Withdrawal

2. Which of the following are associated with negative interpretation? *

Depression Happiness Anxiety Peace of Mind

3. How we THINK about situations ultimately determines how we FEEL about those situations. *

True False

4. In which of the following ways can life events be interpretted? *

Negatively Positively Neutrally

5. People who misinterpret things with a negative bias experience emotional disturbances proportionately, as if their misinterpretations were true. *

True False

6. A person who is consistently misinterpreted becomes extremely frustrated and often driven away in despair. *

True False

7. The healthy replacement behavior for misinterpretation is: *

Checking-In Picking-Apart Putting-Down Checking-Out

8. Check-In is a process to see if the way you are interpreting someone is actually correct. *

True False

9. Checking-In involves active, empathetic listening. *

True False

10. Active, empathetic listening involves: *

Creating a safe atmosphere for speaking freely Listening carefully Asking open-ended questions for clarification Reflecting back what you heard for confirmation

11. The mneumonic for active listening is EAR: Empathy = Ask + Reflect. *

True False

12. Learning how to interpret things correctly by checking-In will improve communication and avoid the emotional disturbances, frustrations, and relationship damage that misinterpretation can cause. *

True False

I will ask 3 people with whom I interact frequently whether or not they think I tend to interpret things negatively. Then, I will use the "Checking-In" technique in an effort to ensure that I avoid negative bias in my personal relationships and professional interactions. *

Yes

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